tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946534773407276339.post7293232426447591046..comments2023-11-05T04:09:53.857-05:00Comments on Something Short and Snappy: I think we should be friendsErika The Over Queenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03649072707709302370noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946534773407276339.post-88654957955091860932013-03-31T06:40:54.353-04:002013-03-31T06:40:54.353-04:00i think the best thing i had was one guy emailing ...i think the best thing i had was one guy emailing me and telling me that "not all guys are as nice as me" and then not ten lines later threatening me, my girlfriend and anyone who tried to stop him hitting me hard enough to do permanent damage.<br />Also, saying how nice you are seems a little arrogant.<br />:/Clara Godwin-Suttienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946534773407276339.post-10744915908968918562013-03-21T17:42:15.927-04:002013-03-21T17:42:15.927-04:00Funny story: part of the script for the class I te...Funny story: part of the script for the class I teach requires me to bring up the difference between the<br />phrase "I really like you <em>and</em>" and "I really like you <em>but</em>", which invariably lead<br />at least one of the students to mention the Friend Zone--annoying, particularly since I couldn't just stop the class to lead an impromptu discussion on sexism. With this last group, however, I think I've come up with a solution, involving stating at the beginning of the class that since I can predict the future (as a misdirection in a game of "two truths and a lie", since they rarely every think about the fact that "predicting the future" does not include the word "accurately") I know that they'll be tempted to say the comment, which means I can preemptively ask them not to actually make it because it's a sexist construct. <br /><br /><br /><i>Which is bleedin' difficult sometimes, I know. Great Jaddeth Below, I know. When I refer to myself as a 'former Nice Guy', I see parallels with 'recovering alcoholic' - with destructive behaviours, we might never stop wanting to backslide, we might have to work constantly to be better than ourselves. I may never stop wanting to be Romantic Comedy Guy. But resisting that is the definition of winning. (And sadly there are no cookies for basic decency.)</i><br /><br />Yup. Part of the reason becoming something other than a Nice Guy didn't magically solve all my insecurities (not that deciding to become a better human being ever does) was because I have no confidence that the right circumstances won't bring about old bad behavior. <br /><br /><br /><br />In other words, I liked this article.Mime_Paradoxnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946534773407276339.post-7730362387042977272013-03-19T20:30:47.270-04:002013-03-19T20:30:47.270-04:00Sweet potato casserole Jeebus, I wish there was le...Sweet potato casserole Jeebus, I wish there was less bullshit floating around in the concept of romantic relationships. I'm reminded of a Cracked article where one section talked about how dudes were/are almost programmed into expecting the universe to "owe" them a hot chick. You know, how the hero always gets the girl at the end, whatever type of hero we're dealing with, whether it's the computer nerd dude or the wimpy dude who learns to fight from a badass old guy or whatever the underdog du jour is. Oh, here it is: http://www.cracked.com/article_19785_5-ways-modern-men-are-trained-to-hate-women.html. (I promise I'm not a spambot.)bad_cooknoreply@blogger.com