tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946534773407276339.post2185910179391876282..comments2023-11-05T04:09:53.857-05:00Comments on Something Short and Snappy: SHUT UP YOUR THIGHS ARE FINEErika The Over Queenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03649072707709302370noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946534773407276339.post-73280850079193544062014-09-17T08:18:13.106-04:002014-09-17T08:18:13.106-04:00As a fat girl myself, when one of my skinny friend...As a fat girl myself, when one of my skinny friends infuriatingly says to me that they're "a whale" or "ohmygawd so fat" my response is usually to look at them while stroking my chin and saying "Yeesh, yeah - you could probably stand to lose a few." Not because I want to give them a complex, but because I think it's extremely rude and insensitive to say that to someone who is bigger than you. I am a plus sized diva, and I am extremely comfortable with who I am and what I look like. I still think that it is in poor taste and akin to body shaming when they say those things to me specifically. <br /><br />Perhaps it's the fact that I live in Los Angeles, where most attractive people enjoy shaming fat people (especially when I'm at the gym, why you would fat shame someone who is actively trying to do something about it is beyond me) but it always comes across as snarking on my weight. <br /><br />I was once sitting down to dinner with my boyfriend and a "friend" called me. She asked what I was doing and I told her "Well, we are having dinner." She asks, "What are you having?" To which I respond, "We are having burgers from In-N-Out." She then says, "Ugh I'm so fat, I need to go to the gym." I told her that was probably the case, she should probably go NOW and then said that I had to go and got off the phone. She is known to throw major shade at everyone, which is partly why I really have nothing to do with her now.<br /><br />I have thin friends who have the self awareness enough to not say things that could potentially offend someone who is nearby. Those are generally the people I keep around. Everyone else can go fuck themselves.Fatty Mc Fatfatnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946534773407276339.post-59687583576118284662014-01-14T15:53:07.575-05:002014-01-14T15:53:07.575-05:00damn girl, you are so rightdamn girl, you are so rightalice in wonderlandnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946534773407276339.post-30171088794505693462013-11-26T02:08:30.690-05:002013-11-26T02:08:30.690-05:00Whenever I see discussion about weight I swear to ...Whenever I see discussion about weight I swear to god it's times like this when I wish I had a magic wand and could wave it so everyone could look and be exactly as they wish themselves to be.<br /><br /><br />(Not as old as you by far, but I know that feel about the weight level)Invisible Neutrinohttp://apocalypsereview.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946534773407276339.post-60162118071708502322013-08-23T13:53:18.413-04:002013-08-23T13:53:18.413-04:00Thank you! Thank you thank you thank you.
I&#...Thank you! Thank you thank you thank you. <br /><br /><br />I've been struggling with this exact thing, because I'm deeply perturbed by the expected negative self-talk game ('Oh, I'm so fat!' followed by the expectant stare, waiting for you to reassure or complain about yourself) but have had absolutely no idea what to do about it. Any form of arguing with the person is taken as the expected fished-for compliments, thus participating in the game. Agreement is really shitty to do to your friends. AUGH. Which you pointed out, with the whole lose-lose thing. <br /><br /><br />Any more I've just been silent and uncomfortable and changed the subject and then felt crummy all day. <br /><br /><br />Although I've never met you, Erika, I'm positive that you are indeed a motherfucking babe. As am I.Zadihttp://happysimplefree.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946534773407276339.post-85453795289816244282013-08-22T18:07:02.419-04:002013-08-22T18:07:02.419-04:00When you catch your friends talking trash about th...<em>When you catch your friends talking trash about their bodies? Say the <br />negative self talk is really getting you down, and ask them to say <br />something nice about their bodies (and have something ready to offer, as<br /> well) instead. </em><br /><br /><br />And it's true. I am rarely surrounded by such conversations*, but it always makes me very uncomfortable when it happens. Mostly because I'm worried it's contagious. I think I look plain in a vaguely pleasant manner, and that's exactly the way I like it. (Sexiness is not my thing.) It's pretty comfy to live in most of the time, too. I don't want to lose my comfortableness.<br /><br /><br /><br />I'll try to speak up next time I hear the complaining. (I'm sure there'll be a next time sooner or later, unfortunately.)<br /><br /><br /><br />*On the occasions when my friends do complain about their bodies, it's usually health issues rather than appearance.Brin Bellwayhttp://brin-bellway.tumblr.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946534773407276339.post-59540610336100925292013-08-22T17:41:26.774-04:002013-08-22T17:41:26.774-04:00I can't help thinking of that scene in "M...I can't help thinking of that scene in "Mean Girls" where the Plastics were doing their complainy mirror dance. This shit really grinds my gears, and the thing that bothers me most of all is how it's considered 'arrogant' or 'stuck-up' to be open about liking your body. I for one love my body. I always have. Even when puberty stretched me up into a stick-figure and then the next year my curves came in with a big BOOM, I was always comfortable in my own skin. My peers always seemed surprised by that. What can I say? I'm a motherfucking babe!SandorClegane13noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946534773407276339.post-7384399959488138382013-08-22T17:39:55.609-04:002013-08-22T17:39:55.609-04:00As a guy -- I'm pushing 60, weigh 270, and loo...As a guy -- I'm pushing 60, weigh 270, and look surprisingly like Harcourt(Harry) Mudd from the original Star Trek. I find that guys, as a rule, can look just like me, look in the mirror, maybe suck it in a little, and think "Looking pretty good, looking pretty good."<br /><br /><br />Remember -- though they're trying to change this, there are no billion dollar industries (beauty, fashion, diet) trying to make us hate ourselves so they can sell us stuff; and there is no patriarchy trying to control our lives by turning the anger which should be focused out inward, toward ourselves. Men, money, and power are all conspiring to steal women's lives and vitality and eat all of it themselves.<br /><br /><br />That is, everything you said.Liddle-Oldmannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946534773407276339.post-25072794754115062492013-08-22T17:29:37.124-04:002013-08-22T17:29:37.124-04:00So. Many. Likes.So. Many. Likes.Ymfonnoreply@blogger.com